Guest blog: Go team

Elaine is the partner of the author of this blog. You can read Elaine’s other guest posts on the tagged page.

Teamwork: Less Me and More We

I mentioned this already but Myasthenia really is a team effort. Luckily, Laurna has a great team to support her which is made up of her amazing family, friends, colleagues and of course, the MG community. When supporting someone with Myasthenia, it is important to also rally a team of your own

My team – who are they?

Anyone and everyone. For me, I have the greatest team to support me made up of people who don’t even realise they are on a team (surprise!)

I consider anybody who has ever asked “How’s Laurna?” or agreed to come for a distraction pint with me as a member of my team. I am even more grateful for the people who ask “How are you?” when enquiring about Laurna’s Myasthenia. All these people give me the opportunity to talk if I need to (I don’t want to talk about it…but…) or distract me when I can’t talk about it anymore.

At Myaware meetings, I’ve been  encouraged to hear stories from people who have recruited their children onto their team to help around the house, neighbours to give those children lifts to school or family to step in and provide some respite for partners who maybe just need a personal night to themselves. Every contribution is one less thing for you to do which can really make a difference. Despite how much you might try, you can’t be everywhere and do everything. And it’s ok not to want to be either.

Sounds great but what do I need to do?

Communicate. Like any good team, you can’t expect to win a Grandslam without an understanding of what is required and some practise (Ireland are just giving the other rugby 6 nation teams a sporting chance this year!).

 In the beginning, I felt guilty about talking too much, taking up too much time, awkward about asking for favours. Now, I am much better about telling those around me what I need and letting them get involved. Maybe I have just been lucky but my experience has been that people want to help and like to feel involved. 

I am generally quite a proud person but I had to realise that by letting people help me, I was indirectly helping Laurna. My friends are great and have been there to confide in but also to provide light relief in the form of ‘girls nights’ and weekends away. When working overseas, I have often asked them to discretely check in on Laurna to make sure she is ok. Laurna now pretends not to raise a suspicious eyebrow at their ‘out of the blue’ texts 

So don’t be afraid to ask for help and be thankful for the small gestures which make a difference. When it comes to your loved one’s Myasthenia, it’s important to look after you first so that you can look after them.

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